Think of every person as a perpetual energy machine. Imagine a ring of energy inside each of us, and if the flow is not broken, the loop persists indefinitely. The unbroken ring of energy is the state of being happy, whole, complete, satisfied, and at peace. We each have ultimate control over our own perpetual energy ring.
What leads to all the social problems in the world, is the breaking of that perpetual ring of energy in order to either give some of yours, or take some from another. If you break your energy loop to dish out energy, you will eventually need to break someone else’s loop and take energy from them. If you take someone’s energy, thus damaging their perpetual loop, they will eventually have to steal energy from someone else’s perpetual energy machine. It is a domino effect of negatively affecting others’ energy.
This absolutely does not mean we cannot help other people out. But there is a very specific way we need to handle interacting with others in order to preserve our own perpetual energy creation, because otherwise our imbalance will turn into someone else’s imbalance. Imagine a beam of fire that shoots up above your perpetual energy loop. It only does so when your loop is in tact. This energy, others can feed off of without leaving you any less.
Jumpstarting a car takes power from the good battery, and transfers it into the bad battery, decreasing each battery’s overall share of energy (until they are recharged). Combining two candle flames makes the single flame twice as large.
Example: Your friends want to go out to a bar, but you are not really feeling it. If you go out anyway, but are bitter that your friends “forced” you out, you allowed them to steal your energy, and are now reciprocating the theft by bringing down the mood at the bar, or tucking away the resentment for future theft. Either way, you have allowed your energy to be thrown off, and will seek to make up for that (probably subconsciously). If you roll your eyes at the conversations at the bar, you are stealing your friend’s energy that they were putting into the story, because you feel they stole your energy by “making” you go out. Their energy is now lessened, because they are insecure about the story, or confused about or dwelling on why their friend is mad at them.
The actual decision to go out or not will not effect your ring of energy, but rather how you react to it. Perhaps staying in would have elicited a negative reaction from your friends, which also has the potential to disrupt your energy level, and make you want to steal their energy the next time they don’t want to go out when it is your idea.
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, and energy theft for energy theft makes the whole world bereft.
So the way to deal instead is to maintain your own energy loop. If what you truly want to do is stay home, you have got to make that decision, and then not allow your friends to get at your energy loop. You have to make the decision, and then be done, instead of worrying about your friends’ reactions. You cannot control others, and seeking to control them is a form of energy theft as well, even if derived from true concern. If you text them nervously hoping to abridge any dissatisfaction with your decision, your insecurity is voluntarily handing over energy from your loop. If you text them out of the pure desire to wish them a fun night, you have instead allowed them to feed off of your fire, without disrupting your energy loop.
But perhaps it is your friend’s birthday, and it would actually be in poor taste to just be like, “meh, I feel like staying in.” This all depends on how you handle the obligation. If you go out bitterly, you will steal energy. But if you look inside, balance your energy loop, and realize that sometimes what having friends is about is doing something for them even when you don’t necessarily want to, you can keep your loop in tact. You will actually be happy when you go out, because your friend is happy, because you are not making snarky comments out of bitterness, nor sullenly dwelling on the other things your would rather be doing.
You make the best out of it, realizing you were not forced into the situation, but rather forced to make a choice involving the situation. This then grows your fire beam that extends upward from your energy loop, and allows your friend the opportunity to grow theirs even more, because they do not have to seek energy to steal, since your never broke their energy loop to begin with. You can now both combine your resulting beams, which doubles both of your beam energy, instead of spreading the loop energy, and thus decreasing each individual’s energy in the loop.
We are in fact thrown into situations which are troublesome, so how do we make sure these situations do not throw off our own energy loops? This involves recognizing what you can and cannot control. Risky behavior of your friends might make you nervous, but attempting to control that behavior can lead to the stealing of their energy, or the giving of your own. Your nervousness at their actions is taking your energy. Your insistence on the way they act is stealing their energy. Do not control, and do not allow yourself to be controlled. Sometimes, walking away is the only way to preserve your own energy ring, as well as stop yourself from throwing off another’s energy loop. But strike a balance: walking away must be of pure intentions, and not aimed at influencing the behavior of your friends.
But what if what I really want to do is run naked through the streets? We can recognize consequences, and adjust our behavior rationally without throwing off our energy loops. Recognize that it is aggravating that we are in a sense beholden to society, but do not take it out on society. Do not get bent out of shape, and angry, because then society has stolen your energy. Instead, internalize the balancing of your own energy, and accept that not everything is in our control. Our own actions are still in our control however, and we can still do what we want, but we cannot force others around us to react in a particular way.
All Boiled Down
In essence, we must analyze our intentions, and stop ourselves when we are at risk of becoming energy vampires. Will what I am saying or doing actually increase the happiness of me and others? Is this just a shallow attempt to make myself feel better at the expense of others? Will this theft of their energy require them to make up for what I have taken, by victimizing another?
We all know when we are trying to negatively affect a person, even if we think it is justified. But we must also realize that their negativity will likewise affect others, whether it is due to a bad mood, insecurity, or the blatant transferal of your negative energy which was directed at them, then being directed at others.
We must also analyze our intentions, and stop ourselves if we are at risk of becoming a victim of energy theft. Is the energy you are giving away disrupting your own, or simply feeding the other? Does the energy the other gets take from your own loop, or simply use the excess fire your loop has created in order to invigorate their own loop? Will the energy you give turn to bitterness, resentment, or anger, causing the de facto theft of others’ (perhaps not easily identified victims) energy because of your negative feelings?
We are able to tell the difference between pure intentions of giving to others for the sake of giving, versus feeling forced into a scenario, or playing martyr. If you view what you have given as a sacrifice, this will most likely throw off your energy loop. If you view what you are giving as a gift, this will most likely keep your energy loop in tact, and grow the fire beam which is built on the perpetual energy loop.
When we all have in tact energy loops, not stealing from others, nor allowing ourselves to be stolen from, the fire beams of energy will combine exponentially to form a peaceful loving existence. The magnitude of these beams we cannot yet imagine, but have felt when in the presence of pure intentioned individuals with the security to emanate fire beams that combine energy with others’ beams, without leaving any less in their beam.